Relationship Coaching

The Seven Flames

The closer you draw to the flame, the more you feel the fire.

2 min, in Brian’s voice.

From the 120 Meditations · #117 · Destiny

Of living a romantic love story

I am worthy of living a romantic love story. I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine. (Sgs 6:3). The Bible opens with a wedding in a garden and closes with a wedding feast, and in between, the first miracle saves a wedding from running out of wine. Romance is not a distraction from the spiritual life. It is one of its native tongues. Bernard of Clairvaux spent decades preaching on the Song of Songs, because the love between two people is a window into the love God has for the soul. So I refuse to let love grow ordinary. I pursue, I delight, I choose my beloved again each day, for love is not something I fall into once but something I rise into daily. And when I love and am loved, heaven recognizes its own language.

I take a breath and say yes to the grace of a romantic love story, loving and being loved with an everlasting love.

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God has a plan for a deep and meaningful, robust and beautiful love story. Not a closed one — a love that stays between two people and stops there — but an open love story, where what you have together blesses the world around you.

These are the seven things such a love rests on. They are not stages to pass through and leave behind. They are flames: each one has to stay lit, and any one of them going out is felt in all the others.

Love can become a winter sun — still giving light, no longer giving warmth. When that happens the flame has usually not gone out. You have only drifted far enough from it to stop feeling the heat.

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